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Wendelien McNicoll
Registered Member MBACP

07957 986874


Wendelien McNicoll Soul Midwife Practitioner Level 1 & 2

I have trained as a Soul Midwife with Felicity Warner, the founder of the Soul Midwives Movement in the UK:

As Felicity says in her book The Soul Midwives' Handbook, the Holistic & Spiritual Care of the Dying, "we all have an ancestral memory of how to sit with the dying; it's in our bones".

Soul Midwives demystify that most natural and sacred process of dying and surround you with loving and compassionate hands.

A Soul Midwife is someone who is comfortable talking about dying, death and grief, and who is able to accompany someone compassionately on their last journey. You need to be completely at ease and comfortable with a Soul Midwife and a trusting relationship is usually built up over a period when it becomes obvious that you need a bit of help living your life fully and maybe don’t quite know how in this anxious time. Engaging the help of a Soul Midwife often means the beginning of engaging with how you want to be living at that time, putting to rest the superfluous which may be clogging up your path and finding out what it is that is important to you, what you wouldn’t want to be without.

A Soul Midwife can fulfil many different roles according to his or her expertise but our main role is guiding and supporting the dying person to achieve their own way towards a dignified and peaceful death.

We have been trained to support and recognise the needs of the dying person and to tune in to whatever it is that may be needed. We can alleviate anxiety and 'hear' the concerns someone has around their dying process. If a few hours rest are needed by the family or friends, I can vigil.

We can also help create a plan of your wishes regarding your preferred place of death, we can talk about your funeral wishes or just to sit and listen.

Soul Midwives are non-medical, non-judgmental and non-denominational; they do not fix or rescue. They can offer gentle touch to soothe anxiety (arms and legs and shoulders only) where appropriate. They bring their own healing skills to the role as well. Some Soul Midwives use music, their song or just sound. Some are Reiki practitioners, some use their counselling skills, others use colour or oils or a combination of all.

We support the dying person facing the end of their life and we do this by way of holding that sacred space between living and dying when somewhere deep inside the 'call of the soul' is getting stronger but the will to live is still very present. Maybe you are not yet ready or willing to hear it and together we acknowledge that and at the same time help make room for the call of the soul. And when the soul grows and the body wanes, the body feels and knows on a very deep level that it needs to heed that call and can then let go. I will stay with you till it becomes apparent that your soul has left your body. And the care does not end there as I can help bridge the period towards the funeral and shortly afterwards.

Whether you are at home, in hospital, hospice or nursing home, we make sure you know that you and your loved ones feel loved and supported. We are able to tune into the family’s feelings around the imminent death and we can liaise between you and them at this difficult and emotional time.

Soul midwives fulfil a function that has been around as long as there has been life and death. Midwives or Doulas assist at birth, Soul Midwives or Death Doulas assist at death. The aim is to make birth and death a deeply transitional experience where trust is off the essence. Trust allows the intake of the first breath and the exhaling of the last breath to be the natural experience it should be.

I do work and liaise with other Soul Midwives in this area and together we can help you and your loved ones prepare for the last journey. This means we can give you as much of our time as is reasonably possible. Experience shows that together we find the right amount of time you need.

Soul midwives are recognised for their unique skills and fulfil a different role from the medical professionals and instead offer a holistic addition of care to them.

I adhere to the professional standards and Code of Conduct, set by the Soul Midwives School.

If you would like to know whether you or a family member might benefit, please get in touch at or on 07957 986874.