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Wendelien McNicoll
Registered Member MBACP

07957 986874


Bereavement Counselling

Grieving is hard work and is a long process of adjusting and adapting, causing many reactions on many different levels, physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, to name but a few. It also has a huge effect on someone's identity. Equally, grieving for someone who has caused you pain can be hard. Grieving for life that is coming to an end or grieving after the death of a loved one takes courage. Bereavement counselling helps you find that courage in yourself.

Not everyone needs bereavement counselling. But some bereaved people cannot see a way forward at all. They just need a bit of extra, specialist support. This helps them cope with unexpected feelings about themselves that have come to the fore after the death of someone. You could have suffered multiple bereavements; a childhood event which was deeply hidden surfaces again or your beloved pet died.

In the words of a client:

"I received counselling after the death of my husband (from cancer aged 47yrs).

I know that I would not be in such a good place now, if I had not received the counselling. My counsellor encouraged me to talk about all the things that you cannot share with anyone who is too close to you, but you need to talk about – even if you don’t realise it at the time. I was also reassured that all my feelings were totally normal which is assuring when one’s life has been changed so dramatically.

I am eternally grateful for the help and support I was given over the 2 years of seeing my counsellor – I thought I would be there for ever but the end came gradually and naturally and one day it came to me that I could go on without the counsellor and our weekly meeting. I know she is there if at any time I need any more counselling and that also helps me to get through. I cannot thank her enough in getting me through the tough early days".

I help you to manage these feelings safely and contain them, which helps you adapt and adjust to a new way of being. I also help a family to support their children and teenagers before and after bereavement. Counselling is a word children may not understand fully but their words are often expressed in things like work books, sand play and drawings.

Teenagers do understand the word counselling but are often reluctant to sit opposite someone and discuss their feelings. With them doing an activity whilst talking is more helpful. I only work with children and teenagers with you as the parent at home.